Have you been religiously chanting your positive affirmations every morning, meticulously arranging your vision board, and vividly visualizing your six-figure success, only to feel like the Law of Attraction is a complete bust?
I’ve been there too. I remember being in the same boat, trying to manifest my first three coaching clients with every technique under the sun, and still hearing nothing but crickets. Weeks went by without a single discovery call.
The frustration was intense. I tried to maintain a positive outlook, but each passing day chipped away at my confidence and belief in my ability to achieve my dreams. Does this resonate with you?
It took me a while to understand that my lack of trust in the process sabotaged my efforts. And guess what? It's not the only reason why the Law of Attraction might not work for you.
Understanding the Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction states that you are attracted to whatever you focus on in your life. Like attracts like. If you concentrate on what you desire, you’ll draw opportunities, connections, and resources to make it happen. Conversely, focusing on what you don't want will attract more of that into your life.
Let me share a personal story to illustrate this. When I first started my coaching business, I struggled to attract clients. Every coaching session, I’d tell my mentor that I had no leads and no way to generate them. I literally felt like I had no one to talk to!
My coach wasn’t having it. “There are 8 billion people in the world, Giorgia,” she’d say. “Your clients are out there waiting for you.” She then gave me practical tips: host a webinar, go live every day on Instagram, attend networking events…
I did all of that... and still, nothing. Why?
I was focusing on the LACK of leads and clients. Every time I attended an event or did a live session, my mind was preoccupied with thoughts like, “None of these people are interested in working with me. They don’t have the time, the money, or the right stage of business to invest in a coach…”
I was essentially disqualifying every person I interacted with!
Do you see the pattern? You can have all the right strategies, but if deep down you don't believe something is possible for you and focus on the scarcity of clients, you're not going to get the results you desire.
My coach spotted this mindset and challenged me to focus on abundance in every area of my life. Together, we did several things:
- Gratitude Practice: Every morning, I wrote down three things I was grateful for. At night, I listed three good things that happened during the day.
- Service Focus: Instead of fixating on getting clients, I concentrated on serving the person in front of me, regardless of whether they would sign up with me.
- Embodiment: I identified what would make me feel more abundant, like spending time with friends and moving to a bigger apartment, and made those things happen immediately.
Once I shifted my focus, my energy transformed. I felt happier, more grateful, and excited about life and business again. People noticed. Out of the blue, I booked my highest-ticket client up to that point!
How the Law of Attraction Works
Many people mistakenly believe that the universe will simply deliver whatever you think about. If you keep envisioning reaching six figures, it will magically happen without any effort on your part.
The reality is more nuanced…
The Universe responds to your energy, delivering people, experiences, and outcomes that match your vibrational frequency — this is the essence of the Law of Attraction.
But there’s more to it. The Law of Cause and Effect states that every outcome has a cause — things don’t happen magically. Even when you’re in a state of flow, it often feels like they do.
Here’s why this is important: you could attract a fantastic opportunity, but if you don’t take action, you won’t see any results. It's as simple as that.
Why the Law of Attraction Isn’t Working for You
The laws of the universe work for everyone, all the time. So, if the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you, there are two key reasons:
- Focusing on What You Don’t Want
Let's say you aim to reach six figures and keep thinking, “I will make six figures this year.” What's the energy behind this thought?
If, deep down, you don’t believe it’s possible for you, if you’re afraid it won’t happen, or if you worry about not being able to manage a six-figure business, this negative energy will sabotage all your efforts.
Consciously, you may direct your thoughts toward six figures, but subconsciously, your fears and insecurities focus on not being good enough, the potential negative consequences of reaching that goal, or feeling undeserving. In other words, you're concentrating on what you don’t want.
To reach six figures, you don’t just have to think you can achieve it. Your feelings must align with your goal as well.
Are your feelings about reaching six figures positive? Are you excited about achieving this milestone? If some fear exists, is the excitement greater? Can you quickly dismiss doubting thoughts and focus your positive energy on the outcome you want?
- Not Taking Action
So, you’re thinking positive thoughts and sending out positive energy to the Universe, yet the Law of Attraction still isn’t working for you?
Being a vibrational match to what you desire isn’t enough. You also need to embody the person who already has what you desire and take the actions she would take to get it — only then will it manifest in your life.
Listening to positive affirmations every morning, surrounding yourself with positive people, and hanging your vision board on the wall won’t manifest your goals on their own.
One of my mentors always says the easiest way to manifest something is to buy it. You can manifest a new dress, but it will likely come from shopping at a thrift store or finding a discount at your favorite retailer. If you don’t buy it, it’s not going to magically end up in your closet.
The same principle applies to business. If you want to achieve six figures, the Law of Attraction will help you manifest opportunities to reach that milestone.
- You might discover a conference where you could meet potential business partners who will promote and refer you. But if you don’t buy the ticket because it’s too expensive or you can’t take two days off, you won’t make those connections.
- Someone may share how they doubled their revenue using YouTube. But if you’re afraid of being on video, you won’t start your channel.
- You might find a coach who can help you reach six figures. But if you’re unwilling to invest the money because your partner doesn’t approve, you’ll stay at your current level.
- You may receive an invitation to speak at a popular summit, but if you’re afraid of public speaking or don’t feel qualified, you’ll turn it down.
Do you see how the Law of Attraction works? You’re always manifesting opportunities to reach your goals, but they don’t always look like opportunities. Often, they appear as challenges that trigger your fears and insecurities.
Forget what the charlatans say. The Law of Attraction isn’t magic. You’re not going to wake up one day with the life and business you’ve always desired.
Instead, use the Law of Attraction to attract people and opportunities to help you reach your goals, and then take action on them. Only then will you have the life and business you’ve always desired.
Thinking positively alone won’t attract what you desire into your life and business. If the Law of Attraction isn’t working yet, it’s because there are two missing pieces: you need to align your emotions with your goals and take the bold actions necessary to achieve them. Only then will you start smashing your goals and manifesting everything you desire in your life and business?